SHOHAR KI 10 GHALTIYAN
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KHUSH GAVAR IZDIVAJI (MIYA-BIVI KE DARMYAN KI) ZINDAGI KESE BANTI HE ??
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SHOHAR KI 10 GALATIYAN
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❶ BIWI KO NAZAR ANDAZ [IGNORE] KARNA
Pehli galati jo aam tor par akser shohar karte hein wo ye he ke biwi ko nazar andaz [ignore] karte hein, biwi ko waqt nahi dete, mehfilo mein bethte hein to dusre logo ko tawajjuh dete hein, biwi ki taraf dhayan nahi dete, dusri rishtedar aurto se bahut khushi se baat karte hein llkin biwi ke sath baat karne ki fursat nahi, awwal to ghar hi der se aate hein or jaldi aa bhi gaye to idhar udhar ke kamo me masruf rehte hein..
Yaad Rakhye....
Apni biwi ko nazar andaz [ignore] karna bahut badi Galati he.
Shohar ko chahye ke apni biwi ko bharpoor tawajjuh de, us ko mahsoos karae ke mere liye tum bahut kuchh ho or mere dil me tumhara bada maqam he.. is tarah biwi ko sukoon milta he.
❷ TALAQ KI DHAMKI
Dusri khatarnak Galati ye karte hein ke biwi ke sar par har waqt “Talaq ki Talwar” latkae rakhte hein, zara koi bat hui to keh dete hein: “me tumhein chhor dunga”, “metumhara faisla kar dunga”, “me tumhe tumhare ghar pohcha dunga”....
Yaad Rakhye..
Jis biwi ke sar par “Talaq ki Talwar” latakti ho us ko kabhi itminaan nahi mil sakta, shohar bol kar chala jata he lekin biwi ke dimag me toofaan mach jata he, wo soch me par jati he: ab mera kya hoga ? Ab wo har raaz ki esi baat apne walidain ko batana shuru kar deti he jo use nahi chahye, lihaza jhagde or barh jate hein, kyunke biwi ko ahsase tahaffuz [sence of protection] na raha, basa awqat wo Galat qadam uthane ko tayyar ho jati he, Gunaho ka darwaza khool jata he, Shaytaan use sikhata he ke ye shohar tuje kabhi bhi chhor sakta he, tu tayyar rehna..! Wo aurat kisi gair se ta'alluq jodne ko tayyar ho jati he.
❸ DUSRI SHADI KAR LENE KI DHAMKI DENA
Akser Shohar aam tor par apni biwi ko kehte rehte he ke... “tum muje achhchhi nahi lagti ho, me dusri shadi kar lunga! ”
Shari'at ne agarche 4 nikah ki ijazat di he lekin us waqt jab ke har ek ke huqooq adaa kar sako, jab ek hi ke huqoog adaa nahi kar pate, ek hi ko itminaan nahi dila pate, ek hi ke sath sukoon se nahi reh pate.. or fir jab ek biwi aap ke sare taqazo ko pura kar rahi he fir dusri shadi karne ki kya zarurat he ???
Wese dusri shadi karni hoti hi nahi sirf sokan ka dar dila kar zehni tor par pareshan karna maqsood hota he, is se us ki zindagi me bhi pareshani peda hoti he or apni zindagi mebhi pareshani peda ho jati he or gunaho ka darwaza khool jata he, galat jazbaat peda hote he.
Is se bachna bahut zaroori he.
❹ BE IZZAT KARNA
Aam tor par akser shohar ye Galati karte hein ke apni biwi ko us ki kisi galati par logo ke samne be izzat kar dete hein, us ka mazaq udate hein, logo ke samne Galat andaz me rok tok karte hein, dant pilate hein.
Is tarah karne se logo ki nazar me to achhchhe ban jate hein, logo ko ye massage dene me kamyab ho jate hein ke dekho mera mere ghar me kitna control he !!
Lekin biwi ki nazar me apne waqar ko zero kar dete hein, is liye har ek ko izzate nafs piyari hoti he, jab kisi izzat ko zakhm pohchta he to us ka dil toot jata he.
Shohar ko is Galati se bachna zaroori he. Biwi se koi Galati ho jaae to use tanhaai me samjhana chahye or biwi ko bhi chahye ke wo esi koi galati na kare jis se shohar ko roktok ki zarurat pade or shohar ke ishare zarye us ke ‘ha’ ya ‘na’ ko samjhe.
❺ BIWI KO WAQT NA DENA
Bahut khatarnak galati jo aam tor par aksar shohar karte hein or is galati me nek log bhi mubtala hein wo ye ke biwi ko waqt nahi dete hein.
Dosto ke sath raat me der der tak bethe rehte hein or idhar udhar ki batein karte rehte hein, nek log apne kamo me mashgul rehte he ya apne bhai behno ya maa baap ke pass beth kar der tak batein karte rehte hein, jab nind aana shuru hoti he to room me aa kar so jate hein.
Biwi se baat bhi nahi karte, us ka haalchaal, tabyat bhi nahi puchhte.
Ye bahut badi Galati he, shar'ee taqaza he biwi ka shohar use waqt de. Ye galati bilaakhir gharelu jhagdo ka sabab banti he.
Har ek ko us ke moke par waqt dena chahye.
❻ BIWI KE LIYE PABANDI OR APNE LIYE AAZADI
Shohar apni biwi ke liye sakht usool bana kar biwi se us ki pabandi karwata he, lekin khood un usool ki pabandi nahi karta, biwi se parda kar wata he lekin khood nahi karta, biwi ko burqa, dastane or moze pehnata he or biwi ke samne hi gair mahram aurto ko dekhta he, balke gair mahram aurto ki tarif or un ke awsaf biwi ko bayan karta he, biwi se namaz ki pabandi karwata he or khood nahi karta.
Ahkaam sab ke liye hein or sab ko pabandi karni chahye, shohar khood pabandi nahi karega to biwi par galat asar padega or us me bagawat paida hogi.
❼ NUKTE CHINI KARTE REHNA
Aam tor par shoharo ko ye Galati bhi hoti he ke biwi ki chhoti chhoti bato par nukta chini karte rehte hein.
Jese: jab khane ke liye dastarkhawan par bethenge to khana chahe kitna hi umda kyu na ho lekin shohar ke liye goya ke aib nikalna farz or ta'rif karna haraam ho is tarah kuchh na kuchh aib zaroor nikalenge, kuchh na mile to namak ki kami zayadti to hogi hi !!! Tarif ke liye to ek lafz bhi nahi milega.
Isi tarah biwi ki har chhoti moti baton par nukta chini karte rahenge. Balke bachcho ke sath bhi yahi bartaw karte hein.
Bahir ki har chiz achhchhi lagti he or ghar ki chiz chahe kitni umda kyu na ho buri lagti he.
Ye badi khatarnaak bimari he, jab har waqt biwi nukta chini ka nishana banti rahegi to use use sukoon kese milega ???
Haan !!! Jo baat shari'at or muashare ke khilaf ho us ki islaah zaroor karni he or action bhi lena he lekin chhoti moti baton ko nazar andaz kar dena chahiy
❽ TISRE SHAKHS [THIRD PARTY] KI WAJAH SE BIWI SE JHAGDNA
Ek galati ye he ke shohar dusro ki wajah se biwi se jagda karta he, aksar esa hota he ke shohar or biwi apni niji muamle [private matter] ki waja se ek dusre se nahi jhagdte lekin tisre shakhs ki wajah se jhagda kar bethte hein.
Ye tisra shakhs shohar ya biwi ke maa, baap, bhai, bahan, rishtedaar ya dost w ahbaab me se koi hota he.
Kabhi jhagde me tisre shakhs ka koi dakhal nahi hota sirf wo sabab ban jata he, aise moke par shohar or biwi ko chahye ke wo apne aap ko sambhalein.
Kabhi tisra shakhs shohar or biwi ke darmyaan jhagda dalne ki koshish karta he, ese shakhs ko chahye ke wo soche ke hadis sharif me farmaya gaya he ke ese shakhs ki “laylatul qadr” me bhi magfirat nahi hoti.
❾ ILZAAM LAGANA
Badi khatarnaak galati jo shohar karte hein ke chhoti chhoti bato par apni biwi par shak karte hein or ilzaam lagate hein, jese dekha ke biwi phone par kisi se baat kar rahi he or wo bata bhi deti he ke kis ka phone tha fir bhi shak karne lag jate hein.
Sirf akhlaq or kirdar me nahi balke chhoti chhoti bato me shak karte hein ke “ ye nuqsaan teri wajah se huwa, bachche teri wajah se bigde, fulaan kam waqt par teri wajah se nahi huwa, kisi bachche ne baat nahi mani to keh diya ke tune bigadbdiya he... ”
Chhoti chhoti bato me shak karna or ilzaam lagana ek mohlik bimari he, ghar ki bunyad hila deti he, is se bachna zaroori he.
﴾10﴿ BIWI KO US KE RISHTEDARO SE MILNE NA DENA
Aakhri badi galati shohar ye karta he ke shohar biwi ke rishtedaro be tawajjuh rehta he balke kabhi kabhar to biwi se keh deta he “muje tum se to pyar he lekin tumhare abbu muje pasand nahi ya tumhari ammi achhchhi nahi ya tumhara bhai ya bahan thik nahi.! ”
Jab biwi se ye keh diya halanke in logo se biwi ka rishta khooni he, biwi kese bardasht karegi ??? Biwi ke dil par zabardast chot lagti he.
Shari'at ne sas or susar ko maa baap ka darja diya he, biwi shohar ke maa baap ko or shohar biwi ke maa baap ko apne maa baap ssmjhein to sara jhagda hi khatm ho jaaega.
Phir shohar ye karta he ke biwi ko apne ghar walo se milne ya phone par baat karne nahi deta, shohar ko chahye ke biwi ko us ke rishte daro se mulaqat ka moka bhi de or phone se baatcheet ki ijaazat bhi de or dusri janib biwi ko chahye ke had me reh kar baat kare, amaanat me khayanat na kare, shohar ke ghar ke raaz apne ghar walo ko na bataae.
KHUSH GAVAR IZDIVAJI (MIYA-BIVI KE DARMYAN KI) ZINDAGI KESE BANTI HE ??
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SHOHAR KI 10 GALATIYAN
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❶ BIWI KO NAZAR ANDAZ [IGNORE] KARNA
Pehli galati jo aam tor par akser shohar karte hein wo ye he ke biwi ko nazar andaz [ignore] karte hein, biwi ko waqt nahi dete, mehfilo mein bethte hein to dusre logo ko tawajjuh dete hein, biwi ki taraf dhayan nahi dete, dusri rishtedar aurto se bahut khushi se baat karte hein llkin biwi ke sath baat karne ki fursat nahi, awwal to ghar hi der se aate hein or jaldi aa bhi gaye to idhar udhar ke kamo me masruf rehte hein..
Yaad Rakhye....
Apni biwi ko nazar andaz [ignore] karna bahut badi Galati he.
Shohar ko chahye ke apni biwi ko bharpoor tawajjuh de, us ko mahsoos karae ke mere liye tum bahut kuchh ho or mere dil me tumhara bada maqam he.. is tarah biwi ko sukoon milta he.
❷ TALAQ KI DHAMKI
Dusri khatarnak Galati ye karte hein ke biwi ke sar par har waqt “Talaq ki Talwar” latkae rakhte hein, zara koi bat hui to keh dete hein: “me tumhein chhor dunga”, “metumhara faisla kar dunga”, “me tumhe tumhare ghar pohcha dunga”....
Yaad Rakhye..
Jis biwi ke sar par “Talaq ki Talwar” latakti ho us ko kabhi itminaan nahi mil sakta, shohar bol kar chala jata he lekin biwi ke dimag me toofaan mach jata he, wo soch me par jati he: ab mera kya hoga ? Ab wo har raaz ki esi baat apne walidain ko batana shuru kar deti he jo use nahi chahye, lihaza jhagde or barh jate hein, kyunke biwi ko ahsase tahaffuz [sence of protection] na raha, basa awqat wo Galat qadam uthane ko tayyar ho jati he, Gunaho ka darwaza khool jata he, Shaytaan use sikhata he ke ye shohar tuje kabhi bhi chhor sakta he, tu tayyar rehna..! Wo aurat kisi gair se ta'alluq jodne ko tayyar ho jati he.
❸ DUSRI SHADI KAR LENE KI DHAMKI DENA
Akser Shohar aam tor par apni biwi ko kehte rehte he ke... “tum muje achhchhi nahi lagti ho, me dusri shadi kar lunga! ”
Shari'at ne agarche 4 nikah ki ijazat di he lekin us waqt jab ke har ek ke huqooq adaa kar sako, jab ek hi ke huqoog adaa nahi kar pate, ek hi ko itminaan nahi dila pate, ek hi ke sath sukoon se nahi reh pate.. or fir jab ek biwi aap ke sare taqazo ko pura kar rahi he fir dusri shadi karne ki kya zarurat he ???
Wese dusri shadi karni hoti hi nahi sirf sokan ka dar dila kar zehni tor par pareshan karna maqsood hota he, is se us ki zindagi me bhi pareshani peda hoti he or apni zindagi mebhi pareshani peda ho jati he or gunaho ka darwaza khool jata he, galat jazbaat peda hote he.
Is se bachna bahut zaroori he.
❹ BE IZZAT KARNA
Aam tor par akser shohar ye Galati karte hein ke apni biwi ko us ki kisi galati par logo ke samne be izzat kar dete hein, us ka mazaq udate hein, logo ke samne Galat andaz me rok tok karte hein, dant pilate hein.
Is tarah karne se logo ki nazar me to achhchhe ban jate hein, logo ko ye massage dene me kamyab ho jate hein ke dekho mera mere ghar me kitna control he !!
Lekin biwi ki nazar me apne waqar ko zero kar dete hein, is liye har ek ko izzate nafs piyari hoti he, jab kisi izzat ko zakhm pohchta he to us ka dil toot jata he.
Shohar ko is Galati se bachna zaroori he. Biwi se koi Galati ho jaae to use tanhaai me samjhana chahye or biwi ko bhi chahye ke wo esi koi galati na kare jis se shohar ko roktok ki zarurat pade or shohar ke ishare zarye us ke ‘ha’ ya ‘na’ ko samjhe.
❺ BIWI KO WAQT NA DENA
Bahut khatarnak galati jo aam tor par aksar shohar karte hein or is galati me nek log bhi mubtala hein wo ye ke biwi ko waqt nahi dete hein.
Dosto ke sath raat me der der tak bethe rehte hein or idhar udhar ki batein karte rehte hein, nek log apne kamo me mashgul rehte he ya apne bhai behno ya maa baap ke pass beth kar der tak batein karte rehte hein, jab nind aana shuru hoti he to room me aa kar so jate hein.
Biwi se baat bhi nahi karte, us ka haalchaal, tabyat bhi nahi puchhte.
Ye bahut badi Galati he, shar'ee taqaza he biwi ka shohar use waqt de. Ye galati bilaakhir gharelu jhagdo ka sabab banti he.
Har ek ko us ke moke par waqt dena chahye.
❻ BIWI KE LIYE PABANDI OR APNE LIYE AAZADI
Shohar apni biwi ke liye sakht usool bana kar biwi se us ki pabandi karwata he, lekin khood un usool ki pabandi nahi karta, biwi se parda kar wata he lekin khood nahi karta, biwi ko burqa, dastane or moze pehnata he or biwi ke samne hi gair mahram aurto ko dekhta he, balke gair mahram aurto ki tarif or un ke awsaf biwi ko bayan karta he, biwi se namaz ki pabandi karwata he or khood nahi karta.
Ahkaam sab ke liye hein or sab ko pabandi karni chahye, shohar khood pabandi nahi karega to biwi par galat asar padega or us me bagawat paida hogi.
❼ NUKTE CHINI KARTE REHNA
Aam tor par shoharo ko ye Galati bhi hoti he ke biwi ki chhoti chhoti bato par nukta chini karte rehte hein.
Jese: jab khane ke liye dastarkhawan par bethenge to khana chahe kitna hi umda kyu na ho lekin shohar ke liye goya ke aib nikalna farz or ta'rif karna haraam ho is tarah kuchh na kuchh aib zaroor nikalenge, kuchh na mile to namak ki kami zayadti to hogi hi !!! Tarif ke liye to ek lafz bhi nahi milega.
Isi tarah biwi ki har chhoti moti baton par nukta chini karte rahenge. Balke bachcho ke sath bhi yahi bartaw karte hein.
Bahir ki har chiz achhchhi lagti he or ghar ki chiz chahe kitni umda kyu na ho buri lagti he.
Ye badi khatarnaak bimari he, jab har waqt biwi nukta chini ka nishana banti rahegi to use use sukoon kese milega ???
Haan !!! Jo baat shari'at or muashare ke khilaf ho us ki islaah zaroor karni he or action bhi lena he lekin chhoti moti baton ko nazar andaz kar dena chahiy
❽ TISRE SHAKHS [THIRD PARTY] KI WAJAH SE BIWI SE JHAGDNA
Ek galati ye he ke shohar dusro ki wajah se biwi se jagda karta he, aksar esa hota he ke shohar or biwi apni niji muamle [private matter] ki waja se ek dusre se nahi jhagdte lekin tisre shakhs ki wajah se jhagda kar bethte hein.
Ye tisra shakhs shohar ya biwi ke maa, baap, bhai, bahan, rishtedaar ya dost w ahbaab me se koi hota he.
Kabhi jhagde me tisre shakhs ka koi dakhal nahi hota sirf wo sabab ban jata he, aise moke par shohar or biwi ko chahye ke wo apne aap ko sambhalein.
Kabhi tisra shakhs shohar or biwi ke darmyaan jhagda dalne ki koshish karta he, ese shakhs ko chahye ke wo soche ke hadis sharif me farmaya gaya he ke ese shakhs ki “laylatul qadr” me bhi magfirat nahi hoti.
❾ ILZAAM LAGANA
Badi khatarnaak galati jo shohar karte hein ke chhoti chhoti bato par apni biwi par shak karte hein or ilzaam lagate hein, jese dekha ke biwi phone par kisi se baat kar rahi he or wo bata bhi deti he ke kis ka phone tha fir bhi shak karne lag jate hein.
Sirf akhlaq or kirdar me nahi balke chhoti chhoti bato me shak karte hein ke “ ye nuqsaan teri wajah se huwa, bachche teri wajah se bigde, fulaan kam waqt par teri wajah se nahi huwa, kisi bachche ne baat nahi mani to keh diya ke tune bigadbdiya he... ”
Chhoti chhoti bato me shak karna or ilzaam lagana ek mohlik bimari he, ghar ki bunyad hila deti he, is se bachna zaroori he.
﴾10﴿ BIWI KO US KE RISHTEDARO SE MILNE NA DENA
Aakhri badi galati shohar ye karta he ke shohar biwi ke rishtedaro be tawajjuh rehta he balke kabhi kabhar to biwi se keh deta he “muje tum se to pyar he lekin tumhare abbu muje pasand nahi ya tumhari ammi achhchhi nahi ya tumhara bhai ya bahan thik nahi.! ”
Jab biwi se ye keh diya halanke in logo se biwi ka rishta khooni he, biwi kese bardasht karegi ??? Biwi ke dil par zabardast chot lagti he.
Shari'at ne sas or susar ko maa baap ka darja diya he, biwi shohar ke maa baap ko or shohar biwi ke maa baap ko apne maa baap ssmjhein to sara jhagda hi khatm ho jaaega.
Phir shohar ye karta he ke biwi ko apne ghar walo se milne ya phone par baat karne nahi deta, shohar ko chahye ke biwi ko us ke rishte daro se mulaqat ka moka bhi de or phone se baatcheet ki ijaazat bhi de or dusri janib biwi ko chahye ke had me reh kar baat kare, amaanat me khayanat na kare, shohar ke ghar ke raaz apne ghar walo ko na bataae.